How people are judging you?

 

First thing they see is your:
- face,
- body,
- the way you dress / your style.
..first judgment.

Second point is the way you move, speak - your voice/tone,  your mimic and your attitude.
...second judgment.

Last point they analyse is what you are saying. But before they decide to listen, what you want to say, they have already created the image of you and they adapt their behaviour regarding this.
...final judgment.

It's happening very fast by grouping informations. Our brain to not be overloaded by millions of informations, groups them. The brain is searching for similarities: situations, colors, shapes, faces, bodies, etc. That's why we are able to remember a lot of facts and even sometimes we think that we have already "seen this before" ("déjà vu" [FR]). That's why we generalize everything very often.

As you can see people are judging you very fast. They put you on defined shelf in the brain. But it's not so hard to change this.

Now the question - how to give the impression which you want them to see?...

It's very easy.

 

Before you need to think clearly and detailed what do you want to "sell" and to adapt all the aspects around. The grouping in our brain is almost identic. We have the same basics, of course dependently on our culture/educational process/personal experience. But each person has created a role for everything.

If I say: "A Teacher" - you suppose to have already the image of a person. Now, think about this person. If she/he has a respect? How this teacher is speaking? What is his dress code? The way he moves, his attitude? Try to analyse each detail.

 

And now ask yourself, what would you change if you were him. As a student, you know what teacher needs to have to be "perfect" for the role.

 

Now, as an adult if you want to be a teacher you know what aspects you need to show to get what you want. Use them. This process is the same for each human.

Take a different role: "Mother, Fintess coach, Policeman, Firefighter" and try to see them in the "Prefect role" - what kind of behaviour/look, they need to have, to be perfect in their role.

The same is for you - see yourself in the role you want to "play". A brilliant student? A proffesional worker? A loving wife/mom/dad?  And feel this role like it's real you.

 

You need to be aware that playing a role and living the role is a totally different thing. But if we are speking only about first impression which you want to give you need to think before, how the perfect role looks for you and how people imagine in general this role.

 

After, what do you already have and on what do you need to work to be perfect in your first impression role.

Remember, that if you give your impression there are a consequences which are going with it. Ask yourself what this role will give you, how much this is real you. If it's just an improvement of yourself - it's ok and easy to manage. But if it's a total change of you, think before you decide to do it. Because first impression, it's just a first impression and behind there is a life going on. Do you really want to fight against yourself? - I don't think so.

 

Now you know how people are stocking informations and how to make your first impression, the way you want. What you will do after is your choice.

 

Hope this information was interesting for you, if you have any questions write to me.